Is a Black Woman Capable Of Being A Black Man’s Cheerleader?

Shout out to all of the black women out there. Stay Beautiful.

*Disclaimer*… I do not support black men that use, and/or abuse black women. I do recognize that they exist, and we have to protect ourselves.

Now that, that’s out of the way. Let’s talk about black love. In particular let’s talk about uplifting our black men. I decided to take the plunge and watch “Sistas”. I honestly didn’t think it would be good due to Tyler Perry’s current track record. Most of his series/movies haven’t really been good since “Diary Of A Mad Black Woman”. That’s just my honest opinion. Anywaysss…moving on. The first episode introduced Karen. Karen was going through a breakup with a man named Zac. Zac cheated on her. Karen told him to Leave multiple times. So Zac left. Which is really funny when you find out she wanted him to “put up a fight.”

*Cue Eyeroll*

Shout out to Nene Leakes ! I love her Facial expressions 😊

Where did things go wrong with Zac & Karen?

Zac had a bad record. Zac was working the best he could at one of the few places that would give him a second chance. He wasn’t bringing in the most money, and Karen made sure he knew how small his contributions were… constantly. Very similar to Angela from “Why Did I Get Married”. Was it their fault that their partners cheated on them? No. Hell No! These are grown men that made a bad decision to cheat. Could they have prevented their men from cheating? …possibly. These are damaged men that love them enough (in their own damaged way) to put up with their constant disrespect, and verbal abuse. My mom taught me that women especially have to be careful with their words “Our words can be like knives, and we can cut a man to pieces.” If you’re constantly talking down to your man. If you’re constantly throwing all of his failures in his face, he’s not the only damaged one. As a grown woman If you feel the need to constantly belittle someone, there is something wrong with you. Get counseling. You make it that much easier for a man to fall into the hands of another woman. One who actually speaks life into them. Even if it’s only for 5 mins. His pride will do a dance, and that little man in his pants will do a jig. What really gets me is how shocked some women are. How are you surprised that a man you dog out constantly has decided to get caught up in someone that showed him love?

“You stand by his side as he builds, then he leaves you for a white woman when he becomes successful”

I completely understand the point that the modified quote above is stating. However, I feel it does nothing but add fuel to the fire that is Black Love. If you’re dating a man that you feel doesn’t currently measure up to your “standards”, you have to make the decision to accept him where he is, or move on to the next candidate. If you decide to accept him where he is, he’s the quarterback of his own life, and you are his #1 fan. The head cheerleader. You’re the one who should be cheering the loudest for him to win. When he wins, you cheer. When he loses, you cheer. This isn’t a position for fairweather fans. You’re with him, or against him. There is no in between. There is no kicking him when he’s already down. There is positivity, LOVE, and solutions.

This isn’t to say that you shouldn’t be the human you are. I’m not saying that you have to be perfect, bubbly, and warm 24/7. We as women have our own troubles as well. If he’s any kind of man he’ll cheer for you just as loud as you cheer for him. What I’m saying is when we commit to someone, we take on the role of their partner. The one person he should be able to count on to have his back.

I didn’t write this for black women to think, “oh I should just take all bull crap from men and cheer ?”

No. Hell no! What I’m saying is if you have a decent man putting in work, try cheering for him even when he’s losing. Honestly if you have a black man giving it his best, cheer for him even when he’s on the bench. Support, and love on him. If you can’t do that, if you can only do the opposite, please don’t even sign up to be on his team. You’ll just become another obstacle he has to overcome.

So to answer the question that I see so often. Hell Yea! A black woman can be a black man’s cheerleader. We are more capable than anyone knows. A decent amount of black women have just stopped due to a fear of being played. We can’t be too scared to love our men the right way. We have to heal, and move forward. We have to be alone, and learn to love ourselves. We have to take our time, really get to know men before we become intimate. If you take your time, and get to know someone, chances are you’ll see the red flags. If you take your time, you’ll find a man worthy of all the love, and support you have to give.

#ThatLoOpychick

Love Letter To Omni-Man

I tried really hard to write a review of Invincible. I just… I don’t wanna. I wanted to like it… I just don’t. I’d prefer a show called “Omni-Man”, so instead of writing a review, I’ve decided to write a love letter to Omni-Man 

Dear Omni-Man,

You may be the villain of Invisible’s story, but you’re the hero in mine. I LOVED the way you set the so-called “mighty” Guardians of the Globe up for slaughter, and knocked them down like the bowling pins that they were… It was glorious! The strength that you displayed made it exhilarating to watch! The loyalty that  you have to your home planet Viltrum is admirable. I love loyalty in a man? …  Alien? Creature!  I just love when creatures are loyal. You deserve to have that same loyalty returned. 

I personally think you need a more understanding wife. Deborah’s not cutting it. You need a wife that understands that you’ve lived far too long to allow yourself to be overly attached to anyone. Especially a fragile pet that ages like warm milk. You need a woman that will take her rightful place as the devoted pet in your life.  

Oh and that son of yours has got to go. You should definitely kill him, and we can make one that looks almost just like him together. We can do what you couldn’t with your EX-wife. We can raise our child in the way of the Viltrumites, so that when the time comes OUR child will understand their duty. 

Omni-Man, I know this letter may come off as a little obsessive, stalkerish, or just plain LoOpy, but I am none of those things. I simply did my research, and realized that you’re in need of a new LOYAL pet, and I’d like for it to be me. 

Forever Yours,

That LoOpy Chick

P.S. Keep that pimp hand strong!

P.P.S. This is a Parody. 

Netflix’s “The Upshaws” Review

The new Netflix show “The Upshaws” starring Wanda Sykes, Kim Fields, and Mike Epps.

*Spoilers*

I don’t have very much to say about this show. It’s a stupid kind of funny. Which is right up Mike Epps alley. It’s his usual mo. Mike Epps takes on the heinous character Bennie Upshaw, and Kim Fields as Bennie’s wife Regina… Yes Kim Fields went from Regine to Regina. I had a good chuckle when I found out her character’s name.

Outside of the humor I couldn’t get over how the wife Regina deserved a better husband than the one she married. Like seriously. He wasn’t even dumb. He just did shady stuff all of the time. ALL OF THE TIME. Bennie simply needed to communicate honestly, and failed to do so on multiple occasions. It’s as if he was allergic to telling the truth. Bennie’s shenanigans were funny in the first few episodes, however the more episodes I watched the more annoying he became.

When I talked to my mom about this, her response was “That’s how it usually is.” Meaning generally in a marriage there is one partner that deserves a lot better, but settled. Honestly before Bennie started trying to get his family back, dude was only useful for sex, and maybe a little money, obviously not enough considering he took her school money without asking. Regina literally did all of the work with the kids, went to work, and took care of everything at home. He did nothing but go to work, barely work, then come home. Bennie had the nerve to take the one thing Regina asked him to leave alone. HER SCHOOL MONEY. He brought nothing to the table but inappropriate jokes, and sex. He’s a terrible character. I told my mom there’s no way. I’d rather be by myself. Do you know what she said ? “Well babe, of course you would. You are of a new, and different generation.”

Is … is that what the previous generation really did ? Did they really settle for crappie partners? Why ? Different times I guess. Different goals. A different way of doing things.

Wanda Sykes dominated the character Lucretia. Not including dating a married man, her character did, and said everything I would have, and more! Lucretia wanted her sister Regina to be happy. Lucretia recognized how hard that would be to achieve with a husband like King Shady (Bennie). Lucretia also wasn’t against Bennie becoming a better father, and husband. She did however doubt that he would change, and rightly so!

Overall the show is decent. It’s definitely entertaining. If you can stomach Bennie, it will definitely tickle your funny bone.